sohotrightnow: Thor with a big smile on his face. ([avengers] god of thunder and :D)
1. Your main fandom of the year?

I started to say I didn't know, but actually, possibly A Song of Ice and Fire, which I didn't think I liked when I first read it a few years ago, except then I reread it, and then I started reading analyses and theories from around the fandom, and now somehow I am on my fifth reread? And I have all these half-written posts about my own theories and analysis??? And I feel strongly enough about the books to talk shit about the show at every opportunity, even as I grudgingly admit that I probably wouldn't have read them if it weren't for the show?????? QUESTION MARKS??????????????

The rest is under the cut. )
sohotrightnow: ([avengers] can't choose what stays)
[livejournal.com profile] rarepairfest is so very much up my alley it's ridiculous. I spent so long agonizing over my nominations, guys, it was absurd. It's Yuletide for people like me, who enjoy big fandoms but invariably end up not giving a fuck about the juggernaut pairings and are into very small weird little ships. ALL OF THE ARAGORN/BOROMIR/ARWEN AND THOR/TONY AND SANSA/DANY, ALL OF IT. \o/

[personal profile] such_heights is hosting an Avengers kiss prompt 'fest and [personal profile] spicedrum knows me too well and left a Thor/Pepper (with or without Tony) prompt, and I am literally going out the door in five minutes and it is tragic. I mean, not that it would break my heart if someone besides me were to write Thor/Pepper(/Tony), because all of that, too.

(Re: going out the door in five minutes, fingers crossed? It's a job interview, and a pretty rad position at a super-interesting place. They've asked for my references, which seems like a promising sign, and ugh, I could use this a lot. Fingers crossed and/or Thor/Pepper(/Tony), please.)

Ugh, I'm having so much trouble with DW lately. I suspect it's related to the modem/router issues I've been having in general and I just need to grit my teeth and call Comcast, but haaaaaaaaaate. :(
sohotrightnow: ([stock] built like light)
Heard back about one of the jobs I interviewed for last week, and didn't get it, which was a bit of a bummer, but it wasn't my first choice, anyway, so who knows, maybe the universe is just making sure my schedule's clear for the other! Which is a longer commute, but also a longer contract, better-paying, and very exciting work at a really cool place. Recruiter from the first job, though, is keeping tabs on things for me, and actually called me about another job, which I was supposed to interview for today, except that half an hour after she called me to confirm the details she got a call from them that they were suspending hiring for it. SAD TROMBONE. It's still not as interesting as the other one I'm waiting to hear on, though, so here's hoping.

Caught up on Korra! Man, though, reading reaction posts elsewhere definitely has me in a "wait, am I watching the same show?" place.

More Korra thoughts. A few spoilers. )

Avengers fandom-wise, I am appalled and saddened by the lack of Tony/Thor. :( They would just be such delightful FWB. Threesomes or foursomes with Pepper and/or Jane would also be grand! Come on, fandom. I mean, I don't expect floods of it, but I'd hope that more than a handful of things on AO3 would be do-able.
sohotrightnow: Lucille Bluth squinting suspiciously. ([tv] lucille is suspicious)
i. So I've had ambivalent feelings about [livejournal.com profile] queer_fest for several rounds now, but man, can they ever fuck right off with their prescriptive bullshit. Bonus points for the glorious indulgence in that favorite game of the Internet Activist, "you haven't suffered as much as/in the same ways that I have and therefore I get to be condescending about how some of us weren't as ~lucky~ as you were and you're not really $IDENTITY after all."

ii. On the bright side, and actually related b/c holy shit, it's a genuinely great representation of a queer character who is allowed to be a character first and have his sexuality be an issue only insofar as it is for the other characters on the show, i.e. in being a source of hilarious hijinks, I have kind of fallen in love with Happy Endings. Why is the first (short) season $25, dislike. I need to catch up on Once Upon A Time and I've started watching Smash, and those are fun, the latter not least because it's a musical that isn't Glee, which is great on so many counts because even my love of Santana isn't enough to outweigh the many problems I have with that show, but Happy Endings is kind of the winner at the moment. Someone talk to me about these.

iii. Also Bruce's new album is fucking great and I will fight anyone who says something bad about it. I hung out with [personal profile] baked_goldfish yesterday and explained that I really, really like that he's gone with a very different, more folkish, bluesy sound, because if anything I feel like that's a far better tribute to the central members of the band who've died in the past few years than anything else might be. Danny and Clarence are definitely noticeable by their absence (that bridge in "We Take Care Of Our Own", for instance; the absence wails almost as loudly and mournfully as Clarence's sax ever did). It's like wearing your scars, though: the skin heals, and it's never going to be quite the same, and the scar tells a story that's every bit as rich as smooth skin (which, to bring it full circle to #1, their not not having scars doesn't make a person's story any less rich or worth knowing than that of the person who does).

iv. I am trying to motivate myself to go to the gym. It's not going so good.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([buffy] society's only protection)
My main takeaway from Once Upon A Time so far: you know, if either Swan or the Queen were male, the show would be playing the UST angle to the hilt.

If BOTH of them were male, however, the show would be a million times duller, but it would be the biggest thing to hit fandom since SPN.

(Also, I kind of like how they're just fully going with the Disney versions of things. It could've gone either way, doing that, but it actually works for me. I have a lot of ~thoughts~ on that, on the evolution of stories and how there's no such thing as the "real" versions of fairy tales, but it's way too tl;dr for the time being. Also also, I totally need an icon of their Maleficent, she's glorious.)

ETA: Spoilery )

ETA 2: OKAY SERIOUSLY )
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([sucker] for death and glory)
So yesterday [personal profile] inlovewithnight and I made margaritas and watched the first episode of GoT!

Okay, so, first of all I'm not that attached to the book -- I've only read the first one so far, and I'll probably read the rest of them eventually but it's not a pressing need. And I also don't generally get too fussed about changes from books, and indeed often I'll even enjoy them.* B/c you know what, film and books are two different media, and what works on a page isn't necessarily going to work on-screen. Not only is shit going to get changed, shit has to get changed! But mostly I'm frustrated that the changes from the book seem to involve stripping women of their personality and agency.

A few people have talked about the problems with how Dany was handled already, but CAN WE TALK ABOUT WHAT THE HELL THEY DID WITH CAT???? Spoilers for show and book, obvs. )

But okay it is only the first episode so it is probably too early to really start giving it up as a lost cause, because maybe they will improve things later. And again, I am willing to put up with a lot for Sean Bean playing honorable, stoic, doomed, and bearded, so I will probably watch more, although probably not sober. Also my roommate wants screencaps because she wants to spam Tumblr with Sean Bean's various hilarious facial expressions. My work is done here.

* Yes let me once again take this opportunity to talk about Arwen in the FotR movie, and my unending resentment that Jackson bowed to neckbeard pressure and didn't make her as awesome as she was supposed to be in the following two movies. NECKBEARDS WHY DO YOU HAVE TO RUIN EVERYTHING?????
sohotrightnow: ([buffy] but you're just a girl)
Gosh, it's good to know I can no longer call myself a feminist because I didn't think Sucker Punch was garbage. Where would I be without the Internet to set me straight with condescension and insults to my intelligence? I have to turn in my card now, apparently, can someone let me know who I should see about that?

Ugh. Like, it's not going to be for everyone and it's far from perfect and I am the first person to agree that Zack Snyder has not done anything to earn the benefit of the doubt re: women in movies, but seriously, fuck off. Especially when many of the condescending comments about how no intelligent woman could possibly defend this movie are coming from people who haven't actually seen it, only the trailers -- and, in some cases, only caps from the trailers, or other people's posts about the movie and not even trailers/caps from the trailers!
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([atla] GO TO YOUR ROOM)
THIS IS A POST FOR PEOPLE WHO DON'T GET INCEPTION FANDOM.

Look, I know that I have several great people on my flist who are really into it, and that is fine, so please just scroll on by if you are one of them. I know that I am a negative nelly and a big old meanie. I am not trying to pee in your cornflakes and I do not WANT to pee in your cornflakes; think of this post as the bathroom I am going into in order to pee instead of doing it in your cornflakes because a bunch of us have been holding it for months specifically so that we DON'T pee in your cornflakes!

That is a disgusting simile and I apologize, but it gets my point across. I do not want to harsh your buzz here. That is why I have included both a warning and a cut. The only reason it's not locked is because a few of the interested people over in the post this started in aren't in my circle, and as you may have noticed it is backdated so as not to show up on anyone's reading lists, because I am legit not trying to pick fights here, just provide a ~venting space~.

Some of my gripes to get us started under the cut, but feel free to add your own, everyone who wanted this post! )

Left outside the cut because HILARIOUS TWIST: I have sometimes found myself in the awkward position of getting REALLY REALLY DEFENSIVE of Ariadne when people include her in their list of complaints about the movie. FUCK YOU, IT'S NOT LIKE SHE'S ANY WORSE CHARACTERIZED THAN PRETTY MUCH ANYONE ELSE IN THAT MOVIE, WHY ARE YOU SINGLING HER OUT. >:( In general they AREN'T singling her out all that often, and heaven knows I will be the first to register complaints about Nolan and women, but lol Ellen Page wifery. /o\

(Which in turn leads me to my old favorite question, why is it that being a blank slate is a good thing for a white male character and a bad thing for any other? But that is a question to save for posts where I complain about fandom at large, because heaven knows Inception fandom isn't the first to pull that one.)

Anonymous comments screened. I don't have a problem with anonymous venting; I will cheerfully admit to frequenting multiple anon memes over the years! But there are plenty of anonymemes out there if you want to argue anonymously, and I have had a lot of trolling and unrelated drama break out when leaving anonymous comments open in previous ~*~Unpopular Fannish Opinion~*~ posts, and I just don't have the energy for it right now. If you want to sign a comment with a name/handle from another site/pseud you're adopting specifically for this post, I will unscreen.

In conclusion, I have a fever and am definitely coming down with something and wish to register a complaint about THAT, as well. Also my current state of writer's block. Basically I am just endlessly cranky today, the end.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([dw] I'll make the most of it)
Hello, Internet! I am kind of sad and lonely lately. 'Tis the season and all, I guess. This morning I listened to loud music, mostly Beyonce and Joan Jett and some Clash and Ramones on the way to work. That helped. Also with [personal profile] inlovewithnight gone for the weekend, the cat always becomes super-affectionate with me, which is fun.

Plus apparently we are sharing our Yuletide letters in anticipation of Yuletide Madness! Mine is here. Also, my birthday is two weeks from tomorrow, I'm just putting that out there.

I have spent lots of time on Tumblr lately. It fits my attention span better, I feel like. At the moment mine mostly consists of Serena/Blair, Bruce/Steve, and some occasional Simpsons quotes, "Sophie Okonedo *_____*", and Harry Potter/Mean Girls macros, because for some reason Harry Potter/Mean Girls macros are always funny to me. Also, today I posted these two pictures in separate posts, one right after the other, and didn't notice until later.



Mostly I walk away wanting to do a Serena/Blair vid, about Serena running off pre-show and Blair hurting over it, set to "Bobby Jean". Maybe once I get my bonus + tax return and buy the new computer I'm planning on, I will vid more than once every two or three years, who knows?

I also started a gender-swapped and race-bent BtVS casting, but mostly it was an excuse to talk about Donald Glover as Buffy and Sophie Okonedo as Giles. THINK ABOUT IT. Or just talk to me about Sophie Okonedo in general. Q: how gorgeous is she? A: All of it. She is ALL OF THE GORGEOUS. Dear Sophie, we should have a gay Jewish wedding and then have lots of tiny babies, yes? Yes. Okay, glad we've got that settled.

Okay, back to cleaning; the fam is coming up to visit tomorrow, plus I have a bunch of baking to do. Happy Friday to all!
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([stock] fuck you I'm a flower)
i. Apparently we're discussing how we need to write more non-cis white dudes again! I'm hopeful that we'll actually get a chance to make progress on that front this time; it was so sad how we all talked about it six months ago and then everyone got kidnapped and held hostage and forced at gunpoint to write Sherlock and Eames/Arthur fic. They all wanted so much to write about more diverse characters! It was tragic, and required such a monumental effort to coerce them all into writing more cis white dudes; I'm appalled that the FBI hasn't tracked down those responsible yet.

ii. I just reread For Matrimonial Purposes THAT BOOOOOOK. All the reviews of it on Amazon give me a comical level of rage because nobody gets anything about this book. "She needs a man to be complete!" NO FUCK YOU IT IS REALLY REALLY CLEAR THAT THIS IS ABOUT HER CULTURE AND HER FAMILY AND NEGOTIATING CULTURAL/FAMILIAL DUTY AND OH ALSO HER DESIRE TO HAVE A ROMANTIC/SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP, ESPECIALLY AS THAT TIES INTO HER NEGOTIATION OF FAMILIAL/CULTURAL DUTY ISSUES. "She's obsessed with shoes and her fashion job and has a ridiculously high standard of living!" OF COURSE, IT IS FUCKING CHICK LIT, LEARN THE CONVENTIONS OF THE FUCKING GENRE. IDEK, I just adore Anju so much. She's probably right up there with Mia Thermopolis and Buffy Summers as one of my favorite protagonists. Disclaimer: I honestly am not even able to be objective about it because I love it so much. Also I am an Ign'ant White American so maybe it is actually awful on race issues? I felt like it was really interesting and respectful (although heterocentric, obvs, because lol chick-lit, and some interesting things going on with regards to class), but again, not only am I an Ign'ant White American, it also hits a bunch of my narrative/character buttons really really hard, so I am totally not able to be objective.

There is a distinct possibility I will request Anju & Mia Thermopolis interacting as my optional fourth request for Yuletide. Also also if anyone wanted to write me Anju (and Rohan maybe, why not) as Companions to the Doctor, I would be totally into that.

iii. I keep meaning to write a post about the whole High Holy Days thing and some things I ~dealt with~, and then I don't ever finish or post it. Someday, kids. Someday.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([etc] get excited and make things)
i. A kinkmeme for ~Disney Animated Classics~. Which is to say, any 2-D major motion pictures and their assorted sequels. Basically anything in the Princess franchise. Possibly allowing non-Disney ones so that the Anastasia fans have somewhere to go. I have sort of wanted to do this for aaaaages. I even have a title! It would be called "Ow! My childhood!" Great idea, or GREATEST idea?

ii. Chicken. I have this really tasty-looking lunch featuring a new kind of yogurt that I am excited about! Also cucumbers! And pretzels! But all of a sudden I'm just like "you know what would be great? Roasted chicken." Thanks a lot, stomach, where the hell am I supposed to get roasted chicken?

iii. Following a conversation with [personal profile] inlovewithnight yesterday, Zhao/Azula babyfic. I don't know how it would even work, but it would be amazing. They would have the hottest, evilest babies ever. And the two of them being parents would be beautiful. They would be confused at first, and then all of a sudden they would just get SUPER INTO IT, because they are the GREATEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD and that means this is the GREATEST BABY IN THE WORLD and obviously they are great parents, what do you mean there are too many stuffed animals? LOOK IF SHE DOESN'T WANT THEM SHE CAN USE THEM FOR TARGET PRACTICE. Comedy gold. And then their child would rebel by running off and joining up with the Earth Kingdom Hippies.

iv. Books to read! I got some good recs yesterday from you guys, thank you! But here is more of me yammering about books, and also me having an absurd plotbunny. )

You're all totally proud to have me as a friend, don't even front.

* Oh man, the amount of time [personal profile] mimesere and I spent at the urban fantasy panel we went to at CCI making fun of the person who got up just to tell the authors how much they wanted to see more books about dudes, I can't even. Y'all know who is really underrepresented in literature? Men.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([etc] morally illiterate)
TRIGGER WARNING. Randomepiphany noticed people were upset by her use of the word rape! She has made an edit to clarify her thoughts.

I do not trigger easily at things on the Internet, but this seriously came close for me, though fortunately I managed to divert it into BLINDING RAGE instead.

Dear [livejournal.com profile] randomepiphany,

I suggest you step away from the computer. I suggest you do this in order to do some fucking research. Maybe you could volunteer for a rape/sexual assault/sexual violence advocacy group or hotline. No, actually, don't do this, because clearly you have no idea what actual rape trauma is like, so best to do something that will keep you from interacting with genuinely traumatized people, who need a lot more respect and empathy than you are obviously capable of. Go for a walk and get some perspective, maybe, and then do some actual research. The point is, grow the fuck up and stop coopting my actual experience and trauma to characterize people being critical of your fanfiction on the Internet.

If nothing else, have the balls to unlock comments on your posts, because honey, fandom was downright nice to you in its original reaction to your story, but at this point you deserve nothing more than to be told, in detail, precisely what a self-involved, ignorant child you are.

You want to come into my journal and defend yourself? Please fucking do. Consider this an open invitation. I suspect it will be a bit like beating my head against a brick wall, on account of how you are obviously determined to make a martyr of yourself, but what the heck, sometimes I like beating my head against walls.

Love,
[personal profile] sohotrightnow/[livejournal.com profile] cidercupcakes
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([celeb] be a doper space hero)
Two experiences: rape, and getting critical comments about your fanfiction on the Internets. Both of these things have happened to me. One of them happened to me today, on account of writing a ficlet in a few spare minutes and not fact-checking the details of the episode it was based on! Internets, try and guess which of these things is going to be giving me flashbacks in the future. JUST TRY.

Explaining: This morning, I found a message in my DW inbox asking for my thoughts on another problematic Big Bang fic, and only now managed to give it any actual attention owing to running around all day hauling stuff through 100-plus-degree weather and massive humidity, but as a result of said running around hauling stuff, my brain is completely fried. Here is my understanding of how things went down!

[livejournal.com profile] randomepiphany writes another super-problematic Big Bang, this one for bandom and featuring a lot of fail on trans* and gender issues. I didn't get a chance to read the fic; mostly I'd just seen some allusions from around fandom, but fortunately, [livejournal.com profile] sinuous_curve, who is more articulate than I am currently capable of being, did a rundown of the situation and picked out a few particularly offensive things here. For a highlight, see a thread where one of the of the listed betas/fact-checkers talks about how she tried to call the author on sketchy content and was blown off!

I actually was just going to signal-boost that post I linked to above, but then I saw that the author had taken the fic down and instead made a big whiny post where she compared fandom's reaction to her fic to gang-rape, including explicitly acknowledging that people might be offended by that comparison and deciding to use it anyway. And now I am seeing fucking red!

Here, Internets, have a rundown I made for [livejournal.com profile] randomepiphany!
Experiences that are comparable to rape: rape.

Experiences that are not comparable to rape: having people say critical things about your fanfic on the Internets.

THE MOAR YOU KNOW!

Sigh.

Jun. 21st, 2010 11:39 am
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([tv] DON'T YELL AT ME.)
Okay. I feel like this has been said, in various ways (most of them, probably, a lot more eloquent than I'm going to be able to say it) a million times throughout the past couple of years' fannish discussions, but I'm frustrated, I've been running into it even in my friends' comments, and so I'm saying it again: it is not the duty of marginalized people to educate privileged people, or to fit some gold standard of "niceness" in calling them out on their privilige. Derailing For Dummies lays out well why coming into a conversation to raise these concerns constitutes derailing (If You Won't Educate Me How Can I Learn and You're Being Hostile, respectively), and I'm going to try to communicate why it's actively harmful. Again, I have no doubts that other people have done this better than I have, but apparently I like banging my head against walls, so what the hell.

Let's work backwards -- first, the part about how it's not a marginalized person's duty to be nice. No, seriously, it really isn't. )

By the same tack, the issue of using *fail as a Learning Experience. Marginalized people are not your teaching tools. )

Don't even get me started on the attitude that Jewish folks in fandom have -- as I recall, this was an actual phrase that came up sometime in the past couple of years -- a "persecution complex". This was actually before I converted, but my reaction then was the same as it is now: when there has been, within living memory, a nearly-successful attempt to wipe you off the face of the earth, I don't think you're imagining the persecution. I think there are a lot of mistaken assumptions about race and ethnicity going on there, starting with an assumption that all Jews are white, but I don't even know how to begin untangling that.

After extensive discussion with a friend, I'm screening anonymous comments on this post. If you're based over on LJ and don't have a DW account, use OpenID, or sign the comment with your LJ handle and I'll unscreen it.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. (Default)
Something I think I should clarify -- [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars's portrayal of Gabe in her Big Bang story was not, as I recall, a portrayal of a Jew who'd converted to Catholicism. I have absolutely no problem with conversion. As it says right in my profile, I'm a convert myself -- I was raised Protestant and am now Jewish. There are a lot of valid reasons to convert, and I'm personally acquainted with many of them.

That's not what this story was. Here, of course, is where it becomes a problem that it's been privatized, because of course you all just have to take my word for it, unless someone has screencaps. This wasn't Gabe Saporta converts to Catholicism -- it was an erasure of his Jewish identity and replacing it with a Catholic one. It was, for want of a better word, a whitewashing.

(And, okay, granted, if you're trying to find someone in bandom who's going to become a priest and talk people off in a confessional, I could see how Gabe Saporta would be a pretty logical choice...except for that whole Jewish thing. The thing is that for me, and a lot of other people, that's a pretty big "except".)

I've also seen several attempts to draw the never-ending debate about whether or not RPF is okay into the comments. Fortunately, this seems to be dying down, but if it continues, I will probably start freezing threads. I have complicated and eternally-changing feelings on the subject of RPF, but I have less than no interest in getting into the debate on whether or not it's ~okay~.

Finally, because I can't believe I actually had to say it in this discussion, of all places: anyone who presumes to know my feelings on rape and/or sexual abuse will be banned from my journal.

After extensive discussion with a couple of people, the original post, and subsequent related ones, will from here on out have anonymous comments screened by default; either use OpenID or sign your comment with your LJ handle to have it unscreened.

PSA

Jun. 19th, 2010 06:29 pm
sohotrightnow: ([buffy] but you're just a girl)
Wow, the Gabe-as-Catholic priest post kind of exploded! I apologize for not engaging or following comments thoroughly, but I'm out of town and my access is limited to occasional playing around with [personal profile] redbrickrose's iPad, on the rare occasions there's Internet access. I'm not ignoring comments or discussion, but my ability to participate is extremely limited.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([stock] magen david)
[livejournal.com profile] promisethstars has made her Bandom Big Bang story private or deleted it, and PM'ed me to apologize. I have issues with the deletion -- [personal profile] amazonziti laid it out well here -- but I appreciate the apology a lot. Thank you to everyone for the supportive comments throughout the course of this, as well.
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So! [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars wrote a Bandom Big Bang project that, among other things, involved Gabe Saporta as a Catholic priest. I'm having trouble verbalizing exactly why this is so gross, but, okay, here is an attempt to do so. When I engaged [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars in discussion and tried to explain why this was bothering me, zie raised the point that the story is an AU, and argued that from zir perspective, there was no difference between making Gabe Saporta a Catholic priest for zir AU and making Patrick Stump a prostitute for another AU. The thing is, as I said to zir, there is a difference between between changing Patrick Stump's job for an AU and changing Gabe Saporta's religion for an AU, and that difference is that there have been and continue to be a lot of people who genuinely want to see Judaism and/or the Jewish people erased from the face of the earth. And, moreover, there are people who haven't just wanted to see it happen, but have made genuine attempts and had varying degrees of success in trying to make it happen.

I also took issue with this part of one of [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars's replies to me during our discussion of the subject:
May I ask, are you yourself Jewish? I wonder if that isn't perhaps that underlying cause of your anger towards me. If you aren't, is there some other personal reason that you are upset?
This is...okay, the best I am coming up with is linking to a few points on Derailing For Dummies, namely (among others) You're Just Oversensitive and You're taking Things Too Personally. Fortunately, [livejournal.com profile] custardpringle made a post about this, addressing (much more eloquently than I could, so I encourage you all to go read her thoughts on the matter) the fact that what [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars appears to be saying with this is that if you are Jewish, you're just mad because you're taking it too personally, and your hurt is invalid.

As of right now, [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars has added the following note to her fic:
NOTE: I have changed Gabe's religion for the purposes of this story. It has been brought to my attention that this is upsetting to some people. I meant no offense or harm, and feel it is better to place a warning here to provide the information up front so that whosoever wants to read this story goes into it understanding the situation.
Which, in all honesty, I feel is kind of...hm. The thing is, I feel like it's been established, throughout the various *Fails of the past year and a half, that intention means very little, if anything. I don't think [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars sat down and said "I think, for my Bandom Big Bang, I want to write something that contributes to a problematic historical tradition of erasing Jewish identity!" and then cackled and did some villainous mustache-twirling. As has been said over and over again, by people far more eloquent than I, intention doesn't matter. That Fan A didn't intend to be hurtful to Fan B doesn't negate the fact that Fan B is hurt and Fan A is the cause of it.

Full warning: At the moment I have very spotty Internet access, since I haven't got it set up in my new apartment yet and work is varying degrees of insane, but please do feel free to weigh in and/or link as desired, and I'll try to keep up when I've got time and Internet access.

EDIT: [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars has made her Bandom Big Bang story private or deleted it, and PM'ed me to apologize. I have issues with the deletion -- [personal profile] amazonziti laid it out well here -- but I appreciate the apology a lot. Thank you to everyone for the supportive comments throughout the course of this, as well.

EDIT 2: Wow, this post kind of exploded! I apologize for not engaging or following comments thoroughly, but I'm out of town and my access is limited to occasional playing around with [personal profile] redbrickrose's iPad, on the rare occasions there's Internet access. I'm not ignoring comments or discussion, but my ability to participate is extremely limited.

EDIT 3: I've seen some classic examples of tone arguments here in the comments. I'm not going to turn off or freeze commenting, including anonymous commenting, because I think there are a lot of reasons people might not be comfortable signing their names to comments. But I'm not going to engage with any more such attempts to derail in this way. If other people want to, they're bigger people than I am.

EDIT 4: Something I think I should clarify -- this was not a conversion story. I have absolutely no problem with conversion. As it says right in my profile, I'm a convert myself -- I was raised Protestant and am now Jewish. There are a lot of valid reasons to convert, and I'm personally acquainted with many of them.

That's not what this story was. Here, of course, is where it becomes a problem that it's been taken down, because of course you all just have to take my word for it, unless someone has screencaps. This wasn't Gabe Saporta converts to Catholicism -- it was just a complete erasure of his Jewish identity. It was, for want of a better word, a whitewashing.

(And, okay, granted, if you're trying to find someone in bandom who's going to become a priest and talk people off in a confessional, I could see how Gabe Saporta would be a pretty logical choice...except for that whole Jewish thing. The thing is that for me, and a lot of other people, that's a pretty big "except".)

I've also seen several attempts to draw the never-ending debate about whether or not RPF is okay into the comments. Fortunately, this seems to be dying down, but if it continues, I will probably start freezing comments. Anonymous comments are screened from this point on; if you're coming over from LJ and don't have a DW account, either use OpenID or sign them with your LJ handle and I'll unscreen them.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([stock] magen david)
So, obviously we are all -- with good reason -- paying attention to the discussion around the J2 white-man's-burden-palooza that was [livejournal.com profile] gatorgrrl's Big Bang (if you missed it, [personal profile] amazonziti has a good run-through and collection of links to start with), but in case you didn't get your fill of rage at fannish fail this week already, [personal profile] inlovewithnight was also kind enough to bring another one to my attention, one that made me angrier and angrier the more I thought about it! Namely [livejournal.com profile] promisethstars's Bandom Big Bang story, wherein Gabe Saporta is a Catholic priest. Because, you know, he's Latino, so he can totally be Catholic, because everyone who speaks Spanish must be Catholic! It's not like he's been super-vocal about how important he considers his Jewish identity or there's a really nasty tendency in modern Western society to write Judaism off as the beta testing stage of Christianity or an even uglier history of forcibly converting Jews or anyth -- oh wait.

Goodness gracious I am seething! I need a cookie. That will help.
sohotrightnow: the top of a swimming young woman's torso. ([tv] my work is crucially important)
i. The Death Of Beer? In spite of myself, I read a few of the comments, and I did like one that said this is a bit of a grim title; it's more like "The Rebirth Of American Beer".

ii. Just so we're all clear, if anyone tries to discuss Israel with me I will probably punch them (there are a few exceptions to this, but I expect they're all as frustrated with the topic as I am)! There were basically all of a dozen people I trusted not to fail all over the place with all absolutes all the time re: Israel period (protip: if international affairs were really that straightforward, every problem in the world could be solved in about ten minutes), and then this week happened and now it's even worse. I've read some fascinating articles (and if anyone wants links, I'll happily provide them) and oh my goodness I have so many feelings on the issue, I just have little to no desire to talk about said feelings or said issue with most people on the Internet because believe it or not, there are some things I don't capslock about and it's super-frustrating for me to see 100% polarized discussion that is all in absolutes, as most of my flist is.

(If you want to defriend me for this, or for whatever you infer my opinion on the matter to be, go ahead; it's always Defriending Amnesty Day around these parts.)

iii. There was a surprisingly positive reaction to the idea of a bi-/pansexual fic fest! I love the idea, and the main thing keeping me from doing it right the fuck now (apart from my life being super-busy until after next week, when I move, so that I can't even deal with [community profile] avatar_minis at the moment) is that I have no idea how it would work. Logistically, I would probably work it something like LGBTfest, but people will (reasonably) say "well, if it's an M/M pairing, what makes that bi-fic instead of slash?" and I really have no response beyond "...IDK, my BFF Captain Jack Harkness?" And on the one hand, figuring out what constitutes bi-fic or pan-fic will be a lot of fun, but on the other hand there should at least be some rough guidelines if we're going to have a whole 'fest.

iv. Dinner at Busboys and Poets, and then maybe The Like and other shenanigans (depending on how tired I am) with fangirls tonight! HOORAY.

v. OMFG work has been so insane today. There is one more thing I am supposed to do but I cannot for the life of me remember what it is. D: Here, have Joe and Jill Biden with some Muppets.

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